There is an obscurity in timing. It tends to go un noticed when impeccable and calamitous when it goes wrong. I aim to allow for the unexpected, not to rush and to feel a relaxed constancy. To allow extra time to get ready, travel and have breathing space to regroup once arrived and after those more trying appointments. When this doesn’t happen, I just do the best I can without beating myself up to have planned it better.
If the morning gets off to a shaky start, the rest of the day gets affected. Regrouping through multiple points as the day progresses can often reequilibrate the day. Taking that pause can make a difference. Seasonal planning for the year is a macrocosm of the day in many ways.
Rushing
This is overated! I generally think it can easily become the norm. We all do it…do we enjoy it? Is this a bid to be more efficient and get more done in a day? I definitely notice when I meet up with a friend that is in rush mode and instead of walking somewhere, we end up having to run…..not so good for my general state of calm.
Fitting that extra thing in while out and about in the car… since having driven 45minutes, I might as well do this, this, this and this.
If I am not rushing, I can still get alot done minus the rushed feelings. When my resilience is good I can get alot done and not feeling rushed. This shows me the impact of state of mind.
Microtiming
If I have been sitting, there is a right time to get up and stretch and move the body. When is it the right time to start eating better, when the body starts to feel heavier and not so good. When there’s been an argument, when is a good time to revisit the topic. At what stage do you decide to call it a night and go home to sleep.
When do you push yourself and get out of your comfort zone and meet new people, get out of your world and refresh your outlook?
Momentum propels you forward out of habit, duty, fomo? This is when tapping into the underlying feeling that drives you to do something allows you to see if your feelings could be soothed in other better ways.
It can wait
Often much can wait an hour, day, month….Does it have to happen now? Does it have to be finished off now? How much patience sits with me today? If I am impatient…. do I have to indulge it?
There are things that can wait and so this other thing can be done. Often it’s the fork in the path where choosing this over that adventure can determine how timing plays out. It’s that opportunity cost such as choosing work over spending time recharging our wellbeing.
Good to get it going on
The flipside is things we put off that are good for us. Somethings seem difficult in the head and easier once actually started. Like learning something new might feel daunting but once started isn’t quite so overwhelming specially when done in bite size pieces.
I check in and feel anxious but generally pretty good. I have the will, energy and good reason and so onward I go. If I am dragging my feet…there is a reason and it’s worthwhile taking the time to knowing what that is.
The rhythm of the day
Slow to start, a steady rate during the afternoon and then a wind down are most days where I like to get things done. Recovery days are slow generally all day with some motivation to get the heart rate up in the early afternoon with some exercise. Other days of inspiration and enjoyment have an upbeat rhythm much like hearing a song with a catchy beat that makes you want to sing, wind down the window and smile.
Accumulative good timing
Having the majority of days in the week in good time is what forms a great foundation habit and status quo baseline. This leads to a steady state of calm and contributes to our restorative wellbeing.